how not to be a jerk
Shit happens, often in a split second.
There are some tragedies that cannot be avoided. Freak tragedies, that is. Say you’re walking along the street happily minding your own business. Very suddenly, the clear sky turns dark and also very suddenly, a lighting strikes the tree next to you. Then I cannot explain the force of the lightning impacting the tree because I’m not very clever, but it’s strong enough that the tree falls down and lands on you. Then you either die or depending on how large the tree is, have a most painful recovery. That is assuming that you’re rescued in time, because it would happen during rush hour and inconsiderate Malaysian drivers would hinder the ambulance from getting to you soon enough. That is also assuming that someone would be around the area where tragedy struck you and that someone would call 999 for help. Also also also very very very assuming that the telephone operator reacts quickly and does not pass the emergency call around to various departments.
Actually I reckon you’d die but I’m putting all that in because sometimes, some good things come with the bad. Always look on the bright side of life and all that positive energy crap.
But that’s freak accidents/ tragedies/ fuck-your-life situations for you. If nature decrees that your time’s up, goodbye. However there are also situations where tragedies could have been avoided if certain measures were taken.
That is why when you send someone back to their car or house, you have to make sure that the person gets back to the car or house safely. That means waiting around for that someone to open the car door, get inside and lock the doors and switch on the engine. Or in a house situation, wait around for that someone to open the gates, get inside, lock the gates, walk to the main door, open the main door, get inside the house and lock the main door. Only then you are allowed to zoom off.
This social conduct applies regardless of time – be it 10am, 3pm, 9pm or 2am, you wait to see with your own eyes that the other person is safe. Even if you do not like the person very much, you still have to do it because it’s the right thing to do. Even more so if you’re sending them off in a dark, lonely sort of area. Not just that, it reflects your own upbringing and manners.
I would extend the courtesy for friends and enemies. As much as I fantasize sometimes, I honestly do not wish for the worst to happen to people I do not like very much. I hope you don’t, too. So don’t be a jerk. Wait 
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Grandma used to insist we call her when we got back to our home. Sometimes, we forgot…
I do that too! Sometimes I’m so thankful mom brought me up half right.
I wonder what did she do with the other half.
You know, there are some who wouldn’t do it no matter how many times you tell them or just can’t get it upload in their mind. A picture says a thousand words. and with your drawing skills I’d love to see that..:P *Mark said that..not me*
if you’re japanese, after u send someone back u expect her to be waving byebye at the gate instead.
Humankind is becoming more and more selfish – they cant spare 2 more minutes to get off to do whatever they wanna do. Cant spare another 2 minutes just to make sure someone is safe. If that was a date, he failed miserably!
hmmmm. . .wondering what u r implying.
I agree with you this time.
It’s so true! I always wait for my friends to get into the car, start the engine and then leave together or seeing that she gets into the house and lock the doors.
So who left you standing in the street, fishing for your keys in the pitch dark???? I hate it when people do that!
I agree with you Suanie…a simple gesture to just wait can make a lot of difference. When I was in younger and was still single (not too long ago!..LOL) i always made it a particular point to do just that to just about everyone of my friends (mostly girls) after we had an outing. Their parents appreciated it so much till I was known Rahman “The Waiter”…hehehe
My concern were precisely their safety and it did feel that I had performed my utmost mortal responsibility upon a dear friend.
These days I am pleased that my son carries it on…God Bless you all!
suertes: then kena kau kau?
yeehou: you mean you’re not all right?
megaa: haha if i drew on this topic, it would consist of only a middle finger hehe
ky: do as the romans
jaime: like i said, i’d do it for everyone, not just someone i may or may not be interested in… upbringing lor
foodcrazee: i’m not trying to imply anything?
dontagree: i’m glad
eiling: basic safety measures!
katz: hahaha. when are we going for coffee again?
RJ: I’m glad you brought up your son right sir! he can take over your legacy