*should* i get married someday..
I was browsing through a couple’s wedding photos that they posted on-line, and was telling Erna that out of the 60+ photos, I only liked one. One single photo out of so many, and that was only because that particular photo did not reek of fake-ness.
Which led me to thinking about the common sense ( or lack thereof ) and economics of weddings. Which after so many years of seeing family members, distant relatives and friends getting married, still does not make much sense to me. Growing up, I don’t recall planning my own wedding and walking down the aisle like some girls and guys do. The past couple of years, I began to realise and accept that maybe I would never get married, and that’s really fine by me. Erm… try not to mistake ‘not wanting to get married’ with ‘not wanting a companion’ 
Don’t get me wrong — it’s nice to see couples in love so happily posing for their wedding photographs — the indoor and outdoor settings. I guess it’s a nice ( albeit expensive ) momento if you think of it that way. And regardless of my blog post, people will continue to have the photographs taken, be host for expensive ( subsidised later, if you are Chinese ) wedding dinners, et al. Go ahead if that makes you happy. You should be able to do what you want to do for your wedding on your wedding day 
But it’s MY wedding, well… I planned my own funeral so I guess I’ll plan for my own wedding day here…
If there comes a day when someone wants me enough to marry me and vice versa, I don’t want the megabucks wedding photographs. Use your own digicams, after all everyone’s a camwhore these days and should own their own digital cameras/ mobile phones for this purpose. I’ll just get the photos from you guys later.
I guess there should be a simple Chinese tea ceremony, I’m Chinese after all, and I think it’s a sign of respect for my elders. No need to give me any heavy gold jewelry and stuff though, kthx. Signing the marriage contract is essential too; after all that’s the whole reason for getting married…
IF THERE WOULD BE A WEDDING LUNCH/ DINNER: No Chinese wedding dinner style. Most likely to be buffet, lots of laughter, silly bits and pranks, everyone eat and hang out for a bit then go home. Then we go clubbing after, or to a pub where there’s lots of alcohol yay!
IF THERE WOULDN’T BE A WEDDING LUNCH/ DINNER: I’ll just send an e-mail telling everyone that I got hitched, sekian.
Now, off to look for a groom…
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LOLOL. “send an e-mail telling everyone that I got hitched, sekian.”
I fully endorse the eloping idea. But then I’ve been telling everyone for years I’m eloping so… :p
Mine will be short webclip on blog with me waving at camera (with hubby if he’s not too shy. “Hey bitches, I’m married. So don’t mind us if we’re too busy making babies to layan you all. Ciao!”
Also when you blog about your wedding, make sure you include an address for us to send angpau. XD
“IF THERE WOULD BE A WEDDING LUNCH/ DINNER: No Chinese wedding dinner style. Most likely to be buffet, lots of laughter, silly bits and pranks, everyone eat and hang out for a bit then go home. Then we go clubbing after, or to a pub where there’s lots of alcohol yay!”
YAY! Chinese wedding dinner sucks (money) !!!
Don’t marry chinese style. Just sign the paper and inform friends, that’s it.
I wouldn’t mind an Elvis impersonator as the pastor/bla-bla to conduct my marriage in Las Vegas.
I seriously have no effin idea why that just popped into my head.
IF I get married again; there’ll be three days of public holiday declared, fireworks every night… and road closures at Jalan Ampang, Tun Razak, Sultan Ismail, Raja Chulan and Bukit Bintang.
Mwahahahahah
what, no karaoke sessions during your wedding?
All I’m saying is that THERE BETTER BE AN ALCOHOL OUTING GOdDAMNIT!!!111oneone
And I agree on the no gold jewelery stuff. Most of the time they are ugly. Just give me teh monies kthx…..
Better include a huge life insurance policy, intoxicate the groom with ethanol and voila…..
If I ever feel like getting married again, I’ll just find a woman I hate and buy them a house! It saves time!
But, getting into the spirit of things [well, maybe not], here is my take:
The everyone bring your expensive cameras’ thing was done by my cousin at his wedding. They also tried to sell a heap of wedding photos to their guests, which didn’t go down too well, as well as tried to sell their wedding DVD to guests … which also did not go down too well …
I think my wedding photos were about AUD$2,500 back in 1990 … pity my Ex didn’t let me keep any! Next time she can pay for the friggin’ things! [Well, not the same woman of course, whoever I marry next ... if I marry again ... if I find a companion again ... maybe ... ]
As for the funeral, they’re much the same as weddings. Lots of flowers are sent to both!!! [And in some peoples eyes, they're exactly the same! Death of freedom or something!]
Tea Ceremony, … Pizza eating contest …
No heavy gold … no flying bullets …
Sign marriage contract … pre-nuptual agreement … life forfiet and made void if seal is removed or broken …
Wedding Dinner – Dial a pizza. I hope everyone likes vegetarian!
E-mail? Thought we’d read about your on your blog!
Now, good thing my marriage never left me bitter and twisted, else I might have a cynical outlook to the whole marriage thing!
u forgot the Tiffany…
erna: hahaha nonid angpau .. oh well if u insist then
btw NO PRESENTS OF IRONS AND MICROWAVES ty
SF: most of the time, cost of a chinese wedding dinner can be recuperated. it’s just the hassle of having it done, even more sien if it’s open karaoke session. i am not a huge karaoke fan, be it myself or others. if the need for food arises, either buffet or damn large ass kfc bucket
iesnek: hmm i favour an alien pastor.. eh i don’t need a pastor to marry me off, heh
tigerjoe: yes yes i got the hint, i’ll stop asking u to marry me then
iris: HELL NO!!!!
FA: hehehhe unless ur parents in law got good taste
moo_t: now we’re talking…
Dabs: 2.5k? man u got off cheap…
Jun: heh nah i am not a huge jewelry fan
Paul Tan looks willing and available
When the day comes, maybe you could YouTube the wedding. That way you can add fake scenery and fake guests and it would be cheap too. With the money you save from not having a real wedding, you could buy a house or something.
“send an e-mail telling everyone that I got hitched, sekian.â€Â
Good idea, remember to include your account number or address so ppl can send you cash, gifts, etc etc hehe
please never ever make it a buffet, attended a few and it sucked royally.
LOL, I do, like a lot of peeps above, agree with your idea of a wedding ceremony. NO chinese-style wedding dinner puhlease.
If the time may come(in a long, long, long time)for me to get hitched, I want it to be a simple outdoor, open-air garden style affair. Bitches can come in summer dresses and flip flops, and we can dance like hippies around the place after too much champagne. FUN!
But on the other hand, I have a feeling the elders might still think that you have something to hide when you don’t held a proper chinese wedding dinner.
AUD$2.5K was actually about Average in 1990.
Whole wedding was done on the cheap, and came to AUD$10K [because we got the cars for free, the hall for free etc]. My in-laws put in about $500 towards it. The rest was paid for by ME!!!! I must remember to marry into money next time! lol
eh wedding ok what, except for kepoh relatives which caused a mini war between my mum and myself on the wedding day… Ash and WC can surely remember that, as can my photographers because i really let loose on the phone!!!
Dab you got conned on the photos!! I got studio photos done (horrible horrible) only because i needed the wedding dress (no point buying eh, rental is good!) but all my good memories of the day was recorded by my photographer friend.. those are really good photos!!!
Weddings are overrated…
suan…just turn your buffet dinner into a club after that…you would be to drunk to go to a club anyways…hire visual artists…dj’s and partay till the wee hours of dawn..then go 4 breakfast..
LT – Yeah, I wanted to go with a Photographer who was trying to establish themselves. Cost would have been $500, but my In-Laws [who weren't paying by the way] insisted on getting them done by a proper Photo-Studio.
The Wedding dress cost $4000 to hire. [Which explains a LOT of the cost of the wedding. In fact, it was ALMOST HALF the cost! Grrrr!] lol
But, I now have Suan saying I got off lightly on the photos and LT saying I got conned. Like I said, $2500 was about average at the time, so I neither got off lightly, nor got conned. It was smack bang middle of the road! [Of course, standing in the middle of the road would explain the smack and bang sound!]
mingsy: har har friends beb
mad: videoshop!
leongsoon: no gifts, purely cash bwahhaha!
ky: but my buffet will be awesome!
Z: yah the thing i wanna hide is that i am broke and can’t have a ‘proper’ chinese wedding dinner heh
LT: wah i didn’t know that haha but i like the photos by bonnie, they were awesome
cmos: indeed
andrew: like just another clubbing night, kan?
dabs: 2.5k was cheap, 10k not cheap
Suan – put it into the year it was done. AUD$2500, is average for the time.
AUD$10K would have been practically unheard of in 1990!
Wedding is not about you or what you want.. its about your parents.. and his parents.. and your friends.. and his friends.. and his relatives.. and all your aunties… They are the ones who will be demanding.. you just have to fork out the money and play along. Worse yet, one of the parents will ask you to go through the whole 3 days of chinese ceremony and praying to all the gods in the sky.
Worse yet, he is a dayak or kadazan and will have a 7 day celebration with cows, goats and chickens being slaughtered.