cultural differences

Ok maybe just one cultural difference. Fuck the ’s’.

This is going to be a quick one because I have lots of things to do. I was chatting with FA on-line, and the subject naturally came to the norm behaviour of Asians and non-Asians. So I related to her this story, which I am about to tell you now.

I come from a small town, right? Well it was small when I left. Now I hardly recognise it when I go back home. ANYWAY, I was not very exposed to non-Asian cultures. Sure I watched them on telly, read about them in books, but nothing could prepare you for the real world.

In 2002 or 2003, I got to know this European dude. My friends called him Peter Pan Spiderman, so those present at that outing would remember this story. It was at a now-defunct pub in Bangsar, we had lots of beer, conversations and giggles, then Peter Pan decided to leave the party to go home and crash.

So he stood up, said his goodbyes, then bend slightly over to me. Oh okay, this is one of the non-Asian way of saying goodbye, right? So a kiss on the cheek it is! After all I’d seen it on telly, shouldn’t be a problem, no sir!

I turned my face for him to kiss one of my cheeks, and thought was done. What followed after was a hilarious confusion as he moved to kiss the other side of my cheek as per his customs, and I didn’t know what to do. It was kinda embarrassing; either he thought I was an ignoramus or he thought I didn’t want to be friends with him anymore.

My friends laughed at me of course. But I am getting used to it :)

The end, now back to work.


18 comments:


  1. Meimei, 19. June 2007, 13:43

    I rmber slutty dancing wif u in 2002/3.
    I rmber the now-defunct bar in Bangsar.
    But I dun rmber any Peter Pan wan?

     
  2. Suanie, 19. June 2007, 15:52

    sorry sorry , spiderman, lol! not the now-defunct bar that you and i went to, the now-defunct bar at the corner of the street.

     
  3. tigerjoe, 19. June 2007, 20:05

    Fuck the ’s’. Indeed, with pun intended. LOL

     
  4. Dabido(Teflon), 19. June 2007, 20:54

    Did he go to stick the tongue in? Another western culture thing that happens in bars! :-)

     
  5. mad, 20. June 2007, 1:14

    He was probably so blasted he doesn’t even remember. Happens to Asians and non-Asians lah.

     
  6. fireangel, 20. June 2007, 8:27

    Wah. Mad uses the lah! And WELL!

     
  7. irisnsc, 20. June 2007, 10:35

    One thing remember…….Europeans kiss on both sides of the cheek and Americans only kiss on one side.

     
  8. Dabido(Teflon), 20. June 2007, 12:14

    irisnsc - and Aussie give an Aussie kiss.

     
  9. Kelvin, 20. June 2007, 13:42

    do it Borat style

     
  10. irisnsc, 20. June 2007, 16:44

    Dabido…..err…..pardon my ignorance….but what’s an Aussie kiss?

     
  11. Dabido, 20. June 2007, 18:19

    irisnsc - It’s like a French kiss but down under! Bwaahhahaaaa! :-)

     
  12. vincent, 20. June 2007, 22:36

    My idea of culture shock was when I first moved to Hicksville.

    The first woman I met in the office, I extended my hand for a handshake. The look on her face was as if I was going to rape her. No kidding. I didn’t realise it back then until it was pointed out to me that things like that were a no-no.

    It would be funny if someone tried the kiss on both cheeks kinda thing with Hicksville women.

     
  13. Suanie, 21. June 2007, 10:43

    tigerjoe: Heh

    dabs: nope :)

    mad: hah ! but no :P

    irisnsc: oO didn’t know there’s a distinction. but i’ve seen americans on telly and movies kissing on both sides?

    kelvin: and scare the hell out of everyone? heh

    dabs: Lmao! good one :P

    vincent: bwahhahaa ! i thought hicksville peps do salam pretty well

     
  14. Jas, 21. June 2007, 10:54

    i found european, british & esp italian do the “both” cheeks but australian does “one” cheek..american & canadian do “hugs” so it all depends i guess..i welcome all though :p

     
  15. Alynna, 21. June 2007, 13:07

    Some French people will kiss you four times as a way of greeting!
    On the cheeks lah. ;)

     
  16. Dabido(Teflon), 21. June 2007, 13:53

    Alynna - On all four cheeks?

     
  17. Suanie, 21. June 2007, 16:41

    I rather everyone just NOT kiss me as a sign of greeting…

     
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