female empowerment… sure or not? (2)

The reason I wrote the previous post was because I’d watched one of Oprah’s shows, where a ‘video girl’ came out to say that the girls you see in the hip-hop/rap videos are in actual fact very much disrespected. Won’t go into details, use your imagination :D

Yes Otto, it’s the industry indeed. Me, change the industry? I don’t think I can do that. Plus I would be a hypocrite because on many occasions, I do enjoy the music videos that I talked about. I don’t think I am that naive nor innocent, nor dreamy to know how the global entertainment industry works :)

Echo succinctly wrote,

I think its great that women now have the choice to “sing” and “dance” like the Pussycat Dolls, or heck even like Playboy Bunnies if that’s how they are so inclined, but I think it’s a sad day when that’s the only method that women are able to be valued in society.

On the big picture, it is rather sad that young kids these days are emulating the very idols they worship, values alike. So who takes control? The parents. But we know parents these days are too busy to teach their kids the very moral values they need. So who do they turn to? Big names, big stars, people on TV, magazines and those in public eye. When these stars fail, as they are bound to as they are only human, I only hope that kids are smart enough to make the right choice.

We really don’t need anymore sex tapes :)

mawisux

I was reading Rocky’s blog on Nicol David deserving a Datukship, when I saw one of the comments (sarcastically) suggesting that Mawisux receive a Datukship.

Dude, if that ever happens, let me know in advance so I can go kill myself.

Ok, or at least bitch about it forever on my blog.

Kthx.

female empowerment… sure or not?

My Milkshake brings all the boys to the yard,
And their like “It’s better than yours”
Damn right, It’s better than yours,
I can teach you, but I have to charge

You are quite forgiven if you think Kelis was talking about a proper milkshake. You know, like the ones in McDonalds. RM2.99 to make the kids and Suanie happy all day long. Okay, maybe only 4 hours.

Then you put on your thinking cap and go, “Hang on, this is the musical era dominated by the likes of Beyonce and Pussycat Dolls and Sean Paul and Nelly and Snoop Dog. That’s not a proper milksha…. oh.”

When Aretha Franklin warbled about RESPECT some 40 years ago, I’m pretty sure she didn’t mean flashing your terribly-concealed jugs to get the attention and respect you want from the opposite sex. Or the same sex. Or green aliens with big friendly eyes. Or walruses.

I know it’s a demand and supply thing — sex sells, duh. We want more pretty faces. We want more boobs. We want more hourglass figures in skimpy clothing, preferably with pretty faces and nice boobs. The more we get, the more we want. It’s an insatiable, inexhaustible market that comes up with every possible angle to get your attention and hopefully, money.

Come up to Carlsberg, anyone?

Well, it’s business. Nothing wrong with business.

So when I write this topic, I may be biting off more than I can chew. Below is a conversation I had with my sis, just to give you a better idea of how difficult it is if you want to properly write about these kind of things.

Suanie: I am thinking of writing something about the sexuality movement today that supposedly empowers you as a female, using music videos as an example; the girls walking down the streets in mink coats and ignoring the men who whistle at them.
Sis: Ah… but then you are showing half your butt in the short shorts under the mink coat.
Suanie: Precisely.
Sis: I think it’s damn stupid. But I think they have no choice. Black women have to have so much attitude because all the black men have so much attitude.
Suanie: Yeah but why men don’t have to show their titties? People like Melissa Etheridge, no need to show anything.
Sis: Because they are ugly fucks with ugly titties hehehe. Melissa Etheridge probably doesn’t get paid as much in endorsements.
Suanie: But she gets respect. Cannot buy respect.
Sis: Yeah but respect’s not going to pay for your bling bling. But then she probably doesn’t wear much bling bling, doesn’t go with her look.

Have to think of this and that factors, that and this influences.

But my main point is, if they want to sing about being a survivor and I get all the boys in the yard and come push my buttons I dictate when and where and respect me biatch or I shove muh bling bling up uranus, the conflicting messages between the lyrics and images make it quite hard to take them seriously.

So at the end of the day, female empowerment konon.

Feel free to expound on this topic lah. Got to sleep now but will talk about it more in comments, that is if someone comments on it first lah.

violence against women haiku

If a man hits you
Don’t just stand there look stupid
Must hit him back. Hard.

women hating women

Believe me, I didn’t like Oprah Winfrey very much. I thought she was an over-rated, over-paid, over-dramatic, over-exposed blah who capitalised on her being an abused black woman in the States earning shit loads of moolah not doing a very good show.

That was BEFORE I watched any of her shows, of course. Sometimes people have this weird thing of making up their minds about something even before they had watched/ seen/ experienced it. I am guilty of this prejudice as much as anyone else.

There is something unique about women. Why do we need men to bring us down? Well we don’t, seeing how we do a pretty good job on that ourselves.

If you are a female and reading this, think to yourself: how many times have you seen another woman and thought all sorts of derogatory things about her? She is well-dressed and poised: she must have been born with a silver spoon and therefore a bitch, OR she adopted the fake air about her and is definitely a bitch. Her tits are bigger than the average Asian woman: that is plastic surgery talking. She is skinny as a pole; bloody anorexic. She carries a genuine designer bag worth thousands of ringgit; she is mistress to some Datuk. Boss favouring her above others; yeah sure, she earned it ‘going down’.

Some people even make it a sport, a daily-life event around the water-cooler. Friends tell me that they feel more comfortable working with a bunch of guys than girls as former eliminate any requirements to compete for attention. Somehow guys don’t function like that? Well if you are female, you will understand me :)

So before we start blaming the other gender for bringing us down, women power and be gone with men and stop hitting us and stop raping us and all that, women all over the world, let alone in Malaysia should take a good look in the mirror first. Change your own perceptions before trying to change others.

Gotta go, Oprah Prime Time on air now ;)

kena saman/ lawak/ scared/ takebackthetech

The other day I received a police summons for an offense that I SWEAR I have never committed.

The offense was written up in Kuantan, a town which I have not visited in years. The last time I was in the East Coast was during last year’s holiday in Redang, where we stopped in Kuala Terengganu for a while.

The car was my old Iswara, which was sold to a second-hand car dealer BEFORE the date of the offense.

Surprisingly it was still under my name.

Damn sien, have to go to the police station now. If not, cannot renew my road tax soon.

This is common knowledge, but whatever. You can check for summons by sending a SMS to the.. erm people. Type “POLIS SAMAN (your IC without dashes or car registration number)” and send to 32728. Then you will receive a SMS that says you have a have a summons for how much on this and that date, and if you want more details, you’ll have to send another SMS saying “POLIS SAMAN (IC or car registration number) SEMUA” and you will get a SMS with the summons details. Each SMS costs RM0.50.

This is your FREE Suanie community service message.

*****

A couple of years ago, we went to Sabah for a family trip. Met up with my sister’s friend, Audrey who was a teacher in Kota Kinabalu. She related a story to us that has been in my mind all these while; never got around to blogging it until I read Bluqube‘s post today.

It was the closing dinner of Sabah’s Teachers’ Day celebration. Education Minister Datuk Seri Hishammuddin Tun Hussein was supposed to be there and address the 2,000 guests present, but at the last minute he could not make it. So one of his deputies attended the dinner in his place.

The deputy stood up to make his speech. He had been to many places in Sabah, he said. He had been to Menggatal and he had been to Bum Bum. He had also been to Nunukan.

If you are like me who can be geographically-challenged at times, here’s a nifty map highlighting kedudukan Nunukan.

Nunukan, Indonesia

*****

Q: What is more dangerous than driving behind a tractor going at 20 kph?

A: Driving behind an indecisive L-plate female student going at 30 kph on a single lane accompanied by an instructor barking into her ears.

*****

Tomorrow I’ll start blogging in participation of Take Back The Tech for 16 days of ‘activism against gender-based violence’. If you want to be part of the campaign, go read more details here.

I think it should have been ‘take back TEH tech’, would be more relevant, you know ;) Anyhow, it will be fun, so let’s do it.

ryan star @ zouk kl

Meet ‘n Greet session with Ryan Star

I left the office a good 45 minutes before the meet started. Normally that would have given me plenty of time to do whatever I had to do to get from PJ to KL. But that afternoon was hell. Don’t really want to talk about it. Anyway I arrived at the hotel slightly late, so I had to wait (along with a couple other latecomers) to enter the suite. We finally went in, and Ryan Star was sitting there, surrounded by girls, boys, cameras, massive Channel [V] posters and lots of Channel [V] posse.

It was a bit intimidating to see him in real life, but he was real friendly and talked a lot. I just sat there and kept quiet lah, being the mouse that I am. The small group of fans were asking him about his Rockstar Supernova experience and when his next album would be coming out and so on. I kept wanting to ask “OMG WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO MARRY ME?!?!” but luckily the angel on the right shoulder was working overtime that noon.

He then performed ‘We Might Fall’, the first song from his album ‘Songs from the Eye of An Elephant‘, and here’s a 1.35 min clip.

Ryan then signed posters, Nadia kept poking me to go get a personalised one etc etc but I told her I didn’t want a signed poster, I want a photo taken with him! As it turned out, I got my wish. A little shaky perhaps, but I can still remember the feel of his leather jacket on my cheek…

Ryan Star and Suanie

Am I sounding like a groupie yet :D

Ryan Star’s showcase at Zouk KL

The next day we went for the showcase in Zouk KL. Since it was raining and the doors would only open at a certain time, we had a couple drinks at the Terrace Bar. Alcohol always helps ;)

Finally we strolled in at around 8 something. VJ Dom and VJ Joey G of Channel [V] hyped up the crowd with lots of shouting (“SCREAM IF YOU LOVE RYAN STAR” bla bla) and giveaways. Maya Karin and Sarah Tan were giving away nice goodie bags as well, and all the male winners took advantage of the situation and hugged the two hot VJs. Smart fellas.

The Channel [V] VJs

Reshmonu performed for a bit, then more giveaways then finally Ryan Star appeared on stage. Yay!

Ryan Star at the piano

Of all the songs he sang that night, I only recognised 4 — The Back Of Your Car, Losing My Religion, 11.59 and Hole In Head. Sorry lah, I’m not very good with names, it’s not like he was Michael Jackson where I had over 10 years to memorise his song titles and lyrics :)

At the starting point of ‘The Back of Your Car’, the sound system fucked up quite bad. He was obviously pissed off, I mean, wouldn’t you? Poor Joey G got booed when he asked the audience to be patient, then Ryan came up and hugged him from behind and said don’t boo him, it wasn’t his fault. So cute, heh.

Anyway after a while the sound was good to go, and Ryan went back to singing the song. Here’s the 3.15 min clip; my hand was not very steady that night so don’t watch this if you get headaches easily. Just listen to the music, I guess.

He could sing well lah. Well, we knew that from the Rockstar Supernova show anyway. I totally respect anyone who can sing live and not sound like a dying crow. Tabik!

Photos and more photos.

Ryan Star facing his fans

Ryan Star rocking the guitar

Ryan Star from afar

Was fun! We had a great time. After the show ended, we left to camho outside with Reshmonu…

Reshmonu and Suanie

… and a massive Ryan Star poster…

Ryan Star groupies

Btw thanks to Channel [V]! I don’t really watch Channel [V] (nor any other music shows with good looking VJs for that matter) but I am a StarWorld addict. That counts for something, kan? :D

Nearly 3 am… don’t think I can contribute anything anymore to this post that makes sense… so here’s a parting shot…

Ryan Star and Suanie 2