female empowerment… sure or not? (2)

The reason I wrote the previous post was because I’d watched one of Oprah’s shows, where a ‘video girl’ came out to say that the girls you see in the hip-hop/rap videos are in actual fact very much disrespected. Won’t go into details, use your imagination :D

Yes Otto, it’s the industry indeed. Me, change the industry? I don’t think I can do that. Plus I would be a hypocrite because on many occasions, I do enjoy the music videos that I talked about. I don’t think I am that naive nor innocent, nor dreamy to know how the global entertainment industry works :)

Echo succinctly wrote,

I think its great that women now have the choice to “sing” and “dance” like the Pussycat Dolls, or heck even like Playboy Bunnies if that’s how they are so inclined, but I think it’s a sad day when that’s the only method that women are able to be valued in society.

On the big picture, it is rather sad that young kids these days are emulating the very idols they worship, values alike. So who takes control? The parents. But we know parents these days are too busy to teach their kids the very moral values they need. So who do they turn to? Big names, big stars, people on TV, magazines and those in public eye. When these stars fail, as they are bound to as they are only human, I only hope that kids are smart enough to make the right choice.

We really don’t need anymore sex tapes :)


I was reading Rocky’s blog on Nicol David deserving a Datukship, when I saw one of the comments (sarcastically) suggesting that Mawisux receive a Datukship.

Dude, if that ever happens, let me know in advance so I can go kill myself.

Ok, or at least bitch about it forever on my blog.


female empowerment… sure or not?

My Milkshake brings all the boys to the yard,
And their like “It’s better than yours”
Damn right, It’s better than yours,
I can teach you, but I have to charge

You are quite forgiven if you think Kelis was talking about a proper milkshake. You know, like the ones in McDonalds. RM2.99 to make the kids and Suanie happy all day long. Okay, maybe only 4 hours.

Then you put on your thinking cap and go, “Hang on, this is the musical era dominated by the likes of Beyonce and Pussycat Dolls and Sean Paul and Nelly and Snoop Dog. That’s not a proper milksha…. oh.”

When Aretha Franklin warbled about RESPECT some 40 years ago, I’m pretty sure she didn’t mean flashing your terribly-concealed jugs to get the attention and respect you want from the opposite sex. Or the same sex. Or green aliens with big friendly eyes. Or walruses.

I know it’s a demand and supply thing — sex sells, duh. We want more pretty faces. We want more boobs. We want more hourglass figures in skimpy clothing, preferably with pretty faces and nice boobs. The more we get, the more we want. It’s an insatiable, inexhaustible market that comes up with every possible angle to get your attention and hopefully, money.

Come up to Carlsberg, anyone?

Well, it’s business. Nothing wrong with business.

So when I write this topic, I may be biting off more than I can chew. Below is a conversation I had with my sis, just to give you a better idea of how difficult it is if you want to properly write about these kind of things.

Suanie: I am thinking of writing something about the sexuality movement today that supposedly empowers you as a female, using music videos as an example; the girls walking down the streets in mink coats and ignoring the men who whistle at them.
Sis: Ah… but then you are showing half your butt in the short shorts under the mink coat.
Suanie: Precisely.
Sis: I think it’s damn stupid. But I think they have no choice. Black women have to have so much attitude because all the black men have so much attitude.
Suanie: Yeah but why men don’t have to show their titties? People like Melissa Etheridge, no need to show anything.
Sis: Because they are ugly fucks with ugly titties hehehe. Melissa Etheridge probably doesn’t get paid as much in endorsements.
Suanie: But she gets respect. Cannot buy respect.
Sis: Yeah but respect’s not going to pay for your bling bling. But then she probably doesn’t wear much bling bling, doesn’t go with her look.

Have to think of this and that factors, that and this influences.

But my main point is, if they want to sing about being a survivor and I get all the boys in the yard and come push my buttons I dictate when and where and respect me biatch or I shove muh bling bling up uranus, the conflicting messages between the lyrics and images make it quite hard to take them seriously.

So at the end of the day, female empowerment konon.

Feel free to expound on this topic lah. Got to sleep now but will talk about it more in comments, that is if someone comments on it first lah.

violence against women haiku

If a man hits you
Don’t just stand there look stupid
Must hit him back. Hard.

women hating women

Believe me, I didn’t like Oprah Winfrey very much. I thought she was an over-rated, over-paid, over-dramatic, over-exposed blah who capitalised on her being an abused black woman in the States earning shit loads of moolah not doing a very good show.

That was BEFORE I watched any of her shows, of course. Sometimes people have this weird thing of making up their minds about something even before they had watched/ seen/ experienced it. I am guilty of this prejudice as much as anyone else.

There is something unique about women. Why do we need men to bring us down? Well we don’t, seeing how we do a pretty good job on that ourselves.

If you are a female and reading this, think to yourself: how many times have you seen another woman and thought all sorts of derogatory things about her? She is well-dressed and poised: she must have been born with a silver spoon and therefore a bitch, OR she adopted the fake air about her and is definitely a bitch. Her tits are bigger than the average Asian woman: that is plastic surgery talking. She is skinny as a pole; bloody anorexic. She carries a genuine designer bag worth thousands of ringgit; she is mistress to some Datuk. Boss favouring her above others; yeah sure, she earned it ‘going down’.

Some people even make it a sport, a daily-life event around the water-cooler. Friends tell me that they feel more comfortable working with a bunch of guys than girls as former eliminate any requirements to compete for attention. Somehow guys don’t function like that? Well if you are female, you will understand me :)

So before we start blaming the other gender for bringing us down, women power and be gone with men and stop hitting us and stop raping us and all that, women all over the world, let alone in Malaysia should take a good look in the mirror first. Change your own perceptions before trying to change others.

Gotta go, Oprah Prime Time on air now ;)